This week we talked about quite a few different things. Last week we talked about dating, and what that’s like, but this week we went over what comes next.
The first main thing we talked about was knowing when to get engaged. If you are thinking about getting engaged, the first thing you want to do is pray about it. We are taught to consult the Lord in everything we do, and this is no different. But it’s not enough for just you to know, your partner has to know it, and feel that it’s the right thing to do too. In class we talked about examples of couples who didn’t do this beforehand. In one case, only one of them prayed about it beforehand, and the other just went along with it without getting her own confirmation from the Spirit. Sometimes when this happens, the first person could have mistaken the feelings for the Spirit instead of just his own thoughts. And if the second person didn’t consult with the Lord it could be against His plans for the two of them and just might not know about it.
Here’s another example to show how important it is for you both to seek counsel from the Lord before deciding to get engaged. One of you could get the feeling that you should, but if the other gets the feeling that you’re not, then it’s probably not in God’s plan. Those are just a couple of examples, but those were the main ones.
When it comes to planning the wedding, you should also make sure to keep the total costs low. We talked about how most people nowadays are spending so much money on the whole event, when you don’t really need too. Spending a ton of money on just one event on just one day could get you into debt that you later have to pay off. When you could have a less expensive wedding and save the rest for your life together. Also, when planning the wedding make sure to include your future husband in all the decisions and plan together. Because, normally the bride will plan it with her mother, which strengthens their bond, but not the bride with her fiance. So, if you plan together, that will help strengthen your bond instead of pushing each other apart.
Another important thing to make sure when planning your wedding, is to also be planning your life together. Most people just get caught up in all the party planning they forget that there’s planning to be done for after the wedding.
One thing about being a member of the church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints is that we have temple marriages. Which, we don’t actually make vows with each other. In temple sealing, you make covenants with God. This is different than normal civil marriages because God is perfect, and won’t ever break His side of the covenant. Outside the church when people get married, they think that whenever their spouse breaks their vows, they should be married anymore. Now, this doesn’t happen with everyone, but it is common. With temple marriages, and their covenants made with God, if either of them come up short (which will happen because we all make mistakes) they can be forgiven. God won’t abandon them, and He will help to strengthen them.
No matter where you are on this path, or how your life is going, you should always turn to the Lord when you feel stuck. If you don’t know what to do, He can help you. He wants us to build our families, and be married in His temples so that we can have eternal life, and attain the highest glory possible.
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